Admittedly, I don't waste time with foreplay, I just get in there and 'do the business', pretty quickly. Generally speaking, it takes around three to five minutes, and I certainly give her 'deep penetration'.

To me, it seems she should be grateful for that. Am I right?

A. No. A lot of men think like you, and just want to get in fast and then climax rapidly. But that is not popular with women these days.

Surveys have shown that modern women really like guys who are tender, caring and romantic, and who take care to ensure that the lady is satisfied!

If you want to carry on as you are, then that is your choice. But you may find increasing difficulty in getting and keeping a girlfriend.

A. Well, the word 'hypochondriac' isn't much used by doctors these days as it is considered rather impolite.

It really means 'thinking far to much about one's own health'. In other words, a hypochondriac is someone who keeps on worrying unnecessarily about the possibilities of illness.

So, does that apply to you? Are you always interpreting minor symptoms as though they were a sign of something awful? If so, then you ought to consider consulting a helpful therapist or counsellor, who could help you to see that most of life's little aches and pains do not indicate that you are about to die.

A. Testiclular cancer is unlike other male cancers, in that the peak age is pretty young. In fact, it mainly attacks men aged around 23-28. So, your partner is right to be fretting. And you must see a doctor this week, in order to have that lump examined.

Now, I have seen where you have advised women in their 30s and 40s who were considering the idea of resuming intercourse. But in their cases, the problem was that the vagina was too tight. In my case, it's quite the reverse.

In fact, doctor, I know that I am much too loose. Is this caused from the fact that I had a lot of sex when I was in my teens? Or is it connected with the fact that I have had three children? Anyway, I must do something about it, because my new man is 'knocking at the door'. In other words, he loves to kiss and cuddle me, and to stroke my breasts. So I am pretty sure that he will soon be asking me for sex. I hope that we will get married and be together forever. But first, I must get this vaginal problem fixed.

A. Yes, sounds like you need some help here. If your vagina really has become loose, that is certainly not due to your past sex life. Contrary to what many people think, sexual intercourse does NOT widen a woman's vagina. However, what does widen it is childbirth, particularly if you have had difficult labours or several children. Women who only had one baby do not usually have much widening.

So, what can you do? Well, first of all it would really be best if you could go and see a doctor, so she can examine you internally and confirm that you really are a little 'loose'.

Assuming that you are somewhat too loose, the next thing you must do is to embark upon a course of 'pelvic floor exercises' (PFEs).

These firm up the muscles which surround the vagina, so making everything strong and firm again. This has a very good effect on sex. But it is vital to realise that in order to 'slim down' the vagina and to make it ready to help you enjoy your sex life, you MUST do these PFEs several times a day, every day, for at least six months.

You can easily find details of PFEs by tapping the words 'pelvic floor exercises' into Google or any other search engine.

But to sum up, the most usual form of PFE is this: You can do it sitting, standing or lying down. Begin by pretending that you are urgently trying to 'twitch' your vaginal muscles, so as to prevent yourself from passing urine.

Now, hold that strong contraction for 10 seconds. Next, release it for 10 seconds. Then do the same thing again, 10 times. All of this will take you around three and a half minutes. That is not very long, but you need to repeat it all quite a few times a day.

It is possible PFEs may not be enough to tighten up your vagina. And if that is the case, there are various surgical operations which you can take, in order to firm everything up. These are called 'repair operations'. They are done by gynaecologists.

Finally, some women who have loose vaginas have found that sex can be improved by slipping a small vibrator inside themselves, just before intercourse. That kind of 'fills everything up' and ensure that there is plenty of bulk inside the vagina.

It is possible to put it inside, and then switch on. As well as 'filling a gap', it will give you a pleasant feeling.

However, if you decide to try that particular trick, which was invented by a Scottish doctor 25 years ago and has helped lots of couples, do please make sure that you tell your partner what you are doing. Otherwise, it could be quite a shock for him when finds something 'buzzing' alongside him in your vagina.

A. Yes, drugs can sometimes harm an unborn child, particularly in the early part of pregnancy. I am sorry that you have had low feelings, and I do think that you should see a doctor to talk about them. But I feel that she will say to you that you should only go on pills if they really are absolutely necessary.